Improving The Quality Of Your Life

Eww, Valentine’s day tomorrow, also known as international act like a sheep day. Who let the dogs out?

I had to do that.

Now, onto serious business. Can you remember the last argument (debate) you had? If you don’t remember, go on and have one right now. You can debate the existence of the abominable snowman, thought by some to stalk the Himalayan Mountains. See if you can prove or disprove his existence to one of your friends/family members.

If you do remember the last argument you had, are you familiar with these terms: “Argumentum ad Ignorantiam” and “burden of proof?” If you are, good for you. : ) But if you’re not (sometimes even if you were), you might have used them to defend your claims. Used them the wrong way, don’t get your hopes high. Read the rest of this entry »

Whenever you find yourself in an argument, do not give advice or suggestions as the heat of the disagreement will burn them. When a person is arguing, their mind is entirely occupied with the argument and simply rejects inputs that do not help it win the argument. Advice, suggestions, critiques and justifications in the peak of an argument always worsen the situation.

What you have to do is simply have patience and allow the heat to settle down. Allow the other party to make all their points. Then politely state yours and hopefully reach an agreement. If the heat is on again, repeat the procedure and try to change the way you state your point.

I think everyone agrees that Obama has great oratory, communication and people skills. And he also seems to be a great father. The letter he wrote to his two daughters is sign of that.

Write your children a letter

It doesn’t matter if you see each other every day. It doesn’t matter if you talk each day. You can write a letter to your children and get great results from it.

There are two main reasons why writing a letter to your children is a really good idea. First, there is the fact that a letter will give you the chance to write  about things you often had never took the time to say. It might make you realize you haven’t fully analyzed some situations — you gain new insights and perspectives by writing down your thoughts. So your children will be able to read about a number of things they never talked about with you. And you might be more understanding about some things. Read the rest of this entry »

“When I was 13, I told Henry Winkler I wanted to act. He said, Do it and don’t let anyone stand in your way. His validation just made it all the more true. I haven’t stopped thanking him since.”
— Marlee Matlin

Validation is one of the most important emotional skills you can possess. Yes, it is a skill because it has to be learned. And it is an important one if you want to have better relationships with people. Read the rest of this entry »

“After all, when you come right down to it, how many people speak the same language even when they speak the same language? ”
– Russell Hoban

Ever wondered how that internet marketer manages to get masses of people to pay attention to his products? Or how presidential candidates and actual presidents make their message stick with entire nations? How do people get seduced into paying attention? Research outlines six characteristics of effective communications. But before telling you what those are, take a look at the picture below. Is it getting its message across and getting your attention? Read the rest of this entry »